who’s that grrrl?

Out of the ash / I rise with my red hair / And eat men like air. (Sylvia Plath)

I’m an ex-pat American and Canadian who lives in the midst of the frozen Canadian prairies.

  • In the (final) throes of my third decade, and mama to one amazing little grrrl.
  • An INFP INFJ (who probably is more transparent than necessary, especially online).
  • I Twitter more than I blog, because I’m lazy. I also Instagram (again, too much) and Pinterest (mostly recipes, because I <3 food).
  • Someone who grew into, and then out of, Christianity. These days I’m happily post-religious.
  • Destined to be a spinster. I think.




9 thoughts on “who’s that grrrl?”

  1. Prof. Bennetch:

    I heard you on Unbelievable with Justin Brierley and I enjoyed listening to the interview.

    Two questions for you if you don’t mind:

    1) You made reference toward the end of the interview to being “trained as a celebrant” or some such thing. Couldn’t help but be curious: trained to celebrate what, exactly? By whom? Is it specifically designed to a be a sort of “shadow celebration” since religious folk seem to have cornered the market on ritual and life-centered celebrations of that sort? I’m a public speaking instructor and I have a self-introductory speaking exercise in which I specifically refer to people who are trained to “celebrate life,” but that they tend to be almost exclusively religious and artistic types. So when I heard your comment, I was very intrigued.

    2) how did YOU feel about the interview? Were you please with the questions? Any surprises? Do you still like Justin and his show? How about the other guy? (I had never heard of him, BTW).

    Finally, I only learned by reading your blog for the first time today that Jack Layton passed away. I’m one of very few Americans in the Deep South (Alabama) who have followed Canadian politics in recent years so I was well familiar with him. Despite being to the right of Mr. Layton (and you, I imagine), I shared your sentiment that his passing will be a great loss for the Canadian people. How did he die? Had he been ill?

    Well, I’ve prattled on far too long. Again, enjoyed listening to your interview and learning your story. Hope to hear back from you.


    Ted Kijeski

  2. Hi Ted,

    Thanks for the comment! I’m glad you enjoyed the interview. I’m still mulling over what I said (and didn’t say), but overall I’m quite happy with it. More on that in a sec. But to answer your questions:

    1. I’m trained as a Life-Cycle Celebrant, through the Celebrant Foundation and Institute [http://celebrantinstitute.org/]. In particular, I specialize in the family and children ceremonies (rites of passage, milestone birthdays, family reunions, graduations, house blessings, etc). Next year I plan to take on the funerals course.

    A celebrant is more of a humanistic counterpart to a minister or religious officiant — I help people celebrate moments in their lives, but without performing any kind of religious ceremony. I’m able to help people construct personalized ceremonies and events, whether they are irreligious or just not interested in having a religious component in their ritual/ceremony. There’s more of a longer answer to this question, so if you need more clarifying, let me know.

    Right now I’m not really practicing so much as a Celebrant, other than performing small ceremonies for my family/friends. Maybe one day I’ll take the leap and will go full-time — I think it would be great to be able to help others celebrate these important occasions in life!

    2. Like I said earlier, I’m still mulling over what I said on the show. I’m pretty happy with how I came across, and you’ll see on my blog that there are a couple entries where I reflect on the whole experience. In all honesty, I was a little taken aback by how active (and defensive) Justin was on the program. I’ve been a longtime fan of the show, and I don’t remember many episodes where he was jumping in so much. Sheridan is a nice guy, and a good listener — but some of the appeals/reasoning he used weren’t that compelling. I think he could have been harder on me, though part of me is glad he wasn’t. (it is quite intimidating to be up against 2 experienced broadcasters — this was my first longer interview)

    I’m still a fan of the show. It was pretty cool to hear Justin give the show details for the next week, and then have him compare Bart Erhman to ME! (I’m pretty sure that will be the first and last time that comparison occurs) 🙂

    3. Jack Layton — color me impressed that you are familiar with Canadian politics! I’m also from the south (Savannah, GA), and I confess that I probably would have had little clue about Canadian politics unless I was living up here. Jack had been fighting prostate cancer for a couple years, and only recently contracted another form of cancer. It’s a very sad loss for the country, as he was a great politician.

    Take care, and thanks again for stopping by.

  3. I looked to your blog from google as some sort of guide through my discovering “grrrlness” (self-titled, as I don’t know what to call it) but can’t tell what your message is, or if it has anything to do with the Grrrl … whatever..? There are many like me who want and need Riot Grrrls, beyond feminism, I know feminism scares the crap out of Millennials… I’m 25 and am with a woman, but having issues with it… are you a blog for me? What is your message? You don’t have one in your “About me.” What is your purpose?

  4. Hey Becky,

    I saw your profile in Verb and I’d love to talk to you about it. I’m a music journalist in Stoon, and that not someone who is going to tell you you’re going to hell…so is there an email or somethign I can send you a far more detailed/rambling reply?


  5. Well, that’s a bit embarassing. Two typos in the same sentence from a writer who actually gets paid to write.

    I assure you that is not the norm from me, and while my ensuing email to you will probably be a bit rambling, it should be coherent for the most part.

    The fact I’m writing this should tell you how much I hate typos…so, sorry lol. Hope to talk to you soon.


  6. Hi Jeff,

    I’ll send you an email according to what you’ve put down for your comment — if you have another email address you prefer, let me know.

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