Monthly Archives: March 2012

What he said:

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. When you are seeking to bring big plans to fruition, it is important with whom you regularly associate. Hang out with friends who are like-minded and who are also designing purpose-filled lives. Similarly, be that kind of a friend for your friends.

Mark Twain

If ever there was a quote for the last year of my life, this is it.

Over the last few months I’ve had some disappointing days, particularly in thanks to some people who I thought were friends — but in fact turned out to be some of the ‘small people’ Twain refers to in the above quote.

But on the other hand, the year I’ve made some strong connections and friends — from all sorts of unexpected places! And the result is that my world (both personally and professionally) is a much bigger and brighter place because of these inspiring relationships.

Big news for my career on the horizon — stay tuned!

Fear and Prejudice on Trial

Go. Go now. Go now and watch “8″: A Play About the Fight for Marriage Equality

Jerry and I watched it tonight, and if ever there’s a church service for someone like me, this. is. it.  One of the final monologues by Martin Sheen (playing the role of the plaintiff’s attorney Ted Olsen) is simply ELECTRIC.

The final scene of the play includes the plaintiffs addressing the audience, talking about the reasons why they put themselves, their relationships, and their family in the public spotlight for this trial.  I was struck by how their primary motivation wasn’t to secure their own individual rights to marry, but the rights of other couples.

Hearing this made me think of one of my favorite high school teachers, Ms. Hearn, who taught me AP US History. I remember that we spent WEEKS studying the ins and outs of the Constitution, including many of the court cases fought that ended up securing some of the rights we enjoy today.  Now, 17+ years later, I can remember how Ms. Hearn impressed upon us how hard others have had to fight to give us the freedoms we so often take for granted.

And that’s how I see these plaintiffs. Ordinary Americans who are doing something extraordinary. Not just for themselves, but for everyone — gay and straight alike.  It’s only a matter of time before everyone back home will be able to marry the person they love — and no piously-driven homophobia will stand in the way.

David Boies (the other plaintiff attorney) put it best: “We put fear and prejudice on trial – and fear and prejudice lost.”

In like a lion

So, it’s March.

I’m nearing the end of a pretty wicked cold, only to find myself in the thick of things. My Google Calendar is starting to look intimidating! Here are just a few things that are on my radar this month:

  • Tonight: my first meeting for the committee of the Varsity View Bishop Murray Community Garden. This will be my third year gardening, and I’m happy to now serve on the committee! Hopefully this committee work will make me feel that much closer to gardening — an activity I miss way too much in the wintry months.
  • Speaking of gardening, this Saturday is the annual Seedy Saturday event.  There’s a workshop on home composting that I’m hoping to get to.
  • In addition to Seedy Saturday, this Saturday is also the big indoor garage sale at Market Mall, and also that evening there’s an NDP fundraiser event that Emma and I are going to: the 13th Annual Celtic Celli. (plus I’m carpooling to dance in the morning and picking up a friend from the airport that afternoon — I’m already exhausted)
  • Next Friday night will be my last indoor soccer game for Vandelay Industries.

Out(side) Spirituality for Secular Humanists: For many in the LGBT community, personal rejection by the religious community has turned people off from the church and faith practices. If being religious isn’t for you, where do you go to find support for life’s difficulties? If you’re not a member of a congregation somewhere, who can you turn to help you commemorate or celebrate life’s milestones? This breakout session will brainstorm and talk about options for the nonreligious.

  • On the last 2 Sundays of the month, I’ll be teaching RE at the Unitarian Centre (go to the website and find my wrist, and the back of Emma’s head)
  • Saturday, March 24th is TEDxUofS — AND I HAVE A TICKET (it’s sold out).


So, yeah, if I’m not blogging much, it’s probably because I’m busy. But, thanks to the prevalence of social media, you can keep track of me on Facebook and Twitter and now Pinterest.

EDIT: I forgot that I’m also planning on participating in the “40 Days for Choice” counter-protest to the Catholic Diocese “40 Days for Life.”